Inner selves

For a long time I’ve been aware of archetypes and inner gremlins, yet it was only a few years ago that I started to develop my understanding of, and approach to working with, inner selves.  My view of the concept has evolved based on learning about how others interpret this idea and my own client work.

I went from only recognising a small group of potential internal beings based on archetypes and tarot, to considering the potential for an internal landscape of beings, objects, nature, sounds, colours, light and anything else my clients would notice (or I would learn through my personal experience).  Now, as my perspective continues to develop, I am learning about how these different elements relate to each other, and the potential impact of each relation on this internal landscape and the client themselves.


From being someone who spent most of my education working with numbers rather than words, I have only recently become enamoured with the beauty of language.  From our choice of words, tone and even the delivery, to the non-verbal communication of body language and energy flow.

It is easy for me to become lost in the power of language and how the simplest expressions like “I’m sorry” or “I don’t know” can hold far more depth than what we experience on the surface.  Language can be incredibly complex or unfathomably simple, yet in any composition it has meaning.  Meaning that can be completely different for each individual.  Leading to misunderstandings and conflict, or clarity and connection. My work is fundamentally about conversations, therefore linguistics is an incredibly important piece of the puzzle that I am gradually putting together.


When I first began working with clients I would get caught up in their experience.  Unpicking the various elements, and working with the patterns of thinking and behaviour, as they related to the client’s outcome.  Although this produced incredible results, and still plays a significant role in my work today, I have become interested in the systems my clients and I operate within.

What are the external influences on our experience that we simply accept?  How do our own systems relate to each other?  How do systems between two or more people relate?  What is the impact of all of this on the client? Can we create our own systems?  If so, what would we create?

Honestly, I’m at the start of this exploration, hence all my questions.  This is developing into an incredibly broad perspective.  I’m not quite sure where I’ll end up, or if I’ll even manage to answer all my current questions.


I view this as a human concept that now has a significant influence on how we live our lives.  Time is fully ingrained in how we operate.  We have alarm clocks to wake us in the morning. Business hours during which we work (or used to anyway).  We even mark our journey through life by an annual celebration of our birthday.

As we take this further, we can consider that time exists within each of us.  We do not exist without the past that made us the individuals we are today, we are constantly passing through the present, and yet we need to have some view of the future to step into it.  And the instant we do step forward, that momentarily becomes our present, and quickly the past.

What if we shifted our view of time?  What if it simply became a concept of how events, people, objects, and in fact any element, related to each other?  What if the element itself became more important than when it took place?  This is a relatively young idea for me and  I’m still playing with it.  Yet, I can already see how it could impact my client sessions.  Especially how clients could objectively view their experience in a different way.