When I used to think about creativity, all I saw w When I used to think about creativity, all I saw was art.  The many, many forms of it, but art none the less.  It's only in recent years that I've discovered creativity in its true definition.
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"The use of imagination or original ideas to create something new".
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It makes sense that art is considered creative, as no two pieces are ever the same.  Even reproductions or prints have slight variations.  Yet, I feel it's important to remember that we can uncover creativity in any aspect of our lives.  If we're willing to discover it.
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In our work, we can identify different ways of doing the same thing.  We can create a new process.  In our relationships, we can find new ways to communicate or go on new adventures together.  We can create a different way to be together.  In our personal growth, we can blend techniques and ways of thinking.  We can create our own approaches that work for us (and maybe others).
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We all have opportunities to be creative.  It is not some elusive skill that is beyond us.  Chances are you've been more creative in your life than you've given yourself credit for.
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I love when someone creates something I've not seen before.  Because that sparks my imagination of what I can create.  And that's an incredible gift I fully appreciate.
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What could you create that has the potential to spark creativity in someone else?
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I can't wait to see what you share x
Sometimes it feels like my life is written in the Sometimes it feels like my life is written in the stars and all I need to do is look up to know what to do next.  Honestly, it's amazing how we can get caught in the details of something inconsequential and miss what is truly important to us.
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So, here's a gentle <nudge>
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Step away from what you usually do.  The patterns of your life that are common to everyday.  And do something different.  Maybe go for a walk, or take a different route.  Perhaps have breakfast in another room or outside.  Go food shopping in the middle of the night.  Use a different mug for your cuppa.
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Look up from your normal.  Take a look around.  Experience something else.
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Truly, the little changes in life can make a huge difference.
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Let me know how you get on x
Remember, not all achievements are life-changing. Remember, not all achievements are life-changing.  Sometimes it's the little ones that mean the most to us, and they deserve our recognition too.
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Nishe x
“Wouldn’t it be great if we could read other p “Wouldn’t it be great if we could read other people’s thoughts?  We’d have so much more insight.  That would be amazing, right?”
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Well…
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As my dad would say “not really”.
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Can you imagine it?  Just take a moment to consider all those random thoughts that run through your own mind before you get to the one or two you decide to share.  All that commentary about pretty much anything, including yourself.  Imagine hearing all of that from someone else about themselves.  Imagine them hearing all of that about you.
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It’s a lot.
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Yet, what’s already available is enough.
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The elements people choose to share with us are incredible.  If we choose to give them the space, and listen openly, without interruption, they’ll share even more.
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We don’t need to be mind-readers to know what someone is thinking. We need to be accepting of anything they may share, so they feel comfortable in offering more.  And remembering that what they choose to share, Cliffs Notes of their experience, are often what’s most important to them.
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Isn’t that what we’re really interested in?
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Hearing what’s going on from them.  And let’s also recognise that they may share something we’ve never considered before.  Something we would never recognise or even look for if we could read their minds.
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That’s the real beauty.
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Each person is unique and only they can fully articulate their thinking.  So, perhaps, rather than trying to figure out what someone is thinking, we can simply sit back and encourage them to share with us.
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From an over-thinker, consistently improving in this space x
Coaches are often taught early on to avoid using t Coaches are often taught early on to avoid using the question “why?” If used inappropriately, or without consideration of the client, this can be interpreted as judgement and lead to a challenge in the coaching relationship.  Personally, I love using why and encourage coaches I train to consider how varying their tone, body language, and even their eye contact can shift what this simple question has to offer.
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What I feel we don’t spend enough time talking about is “how?” Where “why?” can appear judgemental and be challenging, “how?” can appear reasonable and become a block to our client’s progress.  The trickiest aspect of this is most coaches are supporting their clients to discover what they want and then how to get there. “How?” is a natural part of the coaching journey.
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So, how do we use “how?” in a way that best supports our clients?
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We choose when we offer it.
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The use of “why?” comes down to the way in which we deliver the question.  The use of “how?” is all about timing.  If we ask “how?” too soo, our clients may not yet be clear on what they want and therefore not in a position to even consider our question.  It’s likely to make them feel incapable and potentially create a sense of impossibility within their goal.  Too late in the journey, and they may have moved on to their next challenge without resolving this one.  It’s all about timing.
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As a coach you have options.  You can sense when feels right.  You can observe your client for a shift that suggests now is the time.  You can ask the client if they’re ready to discuss “how?” There is no perfect answer here.  It’s dealer’s choice.  But, if it doesn’t land with your client, don’t force it.  Work with them where they are.  After all, it is their journey, we’re just lucky enough to be invited along.
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Nishe x
I was recently on a trainer training course (yep, I was recently on a trainer training course (yep, a place for trainers to develop their skill), and we were discussing what we wanted to achieve through the upcoming sessions.  For me, I wanted to learn more about how we can create spaces where everyone felt they could be open and share.  That psychological safety that isn’t always predictable, and can at times be challenging to create.
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As part of exploring this, one of the course participants asked me if I gave from my head or my heart.  I instinctively knew my answer.  Definitely my heart (to start with anyway). I doubt it’s always been this way.  For a skilled over-thinker, I’d be surprised if it had.  Yet, that was my truth in the moment.
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It also helped me recognise that by giving from my heart, I was doing my best to encourage others to do the same.  This doesn’t mean I switch off my head.  As I want to be thoughtful of everyone in the space, and be cognitively aware of their experience.  It’s simply not where I start.
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This very much reminds me of MBTI, which suggests everyone is a Thinker or a Feeler.  Again, not that we are just one of these, instead we start from one position before experiencing the other.  Both have value to offer.
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Have you ever thought about your first response in terms of thinking and feeling?  I’d love to know what your preference is and how you use this to engage those around you 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
I used to say "I'm sorry" for so much I never need I used to say "I'm sorry" for so much I never needed to apologise for, and rarely when it was truly important.  It's a habit of a lifetime that I'm gradually changing.  It's not easy as it now requires vulnerability at its core.  Yet, it's incredibly powerful when used well.
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Here are a few things I used to apologise for.
➼ People walking into me.
➼ Not knowing how someone liked their tea or coffee.
➼ Speaking up and sharing an opinion.
➼ Going along to some drinks or dinner, even though I'd been invited.
➼ Putting my needs first, when others weren't affected.
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Things I didn't apologise for.
➼ When I said or did something that led to someone feeling hurt.
➼ When I didn't do what I said I would.
➼ Behaving inappropriately, even if I didn't know it at the time.
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Learning to only say sorry for the things that are important can be empowering for everyone involved.  Learning to say "I'm sorry" with a clear statement of what we're specifically sorry for, and taking ownership of what we've done, can build deeper relationships.
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I'm not an expert here.  I don't get it right all the time.  I'm still learning.
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Nishe x
When we work with coaches, we rarely think about w When we work with coaches, we rarely think about what makes them so brilliant at helping us.  We're usually focused on getting the support we need in that moment.  So, I wanted to shine a light on what goes on behind the scenes for coaches.
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PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT: We're continually learning.  Sometimes we're attending formal training in the form of workshops and courses.  Usually we're reading, listening to podcasts, researching concepts, reviewing social media etc. We're always enhancing our skills and knowledge to better respond to our clients.
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SUPERVISION: We're not perfect and we don't have all the answers.  That's why we have supervisors.  Skilled, experienced professionals who help us review our client work, provide guidance on what we could do differently, and suggest how we can develop further as professionals.
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WORKING WITH A COACH: We're human too.  When we face personal challenges we take them to our coach.  We work through these to develop as an individual.  And there's a secondary benefit.  By working with our coach, we gain insight to another approach, which supports our professional growth.
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PEERS: We surround ourselves with like-minded individuals.  We enter into stimulating conversations across a range of subjects.  Through these, we further enhance our communication skills, and develop our thinking flexibility to move with our clients in the moment.
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CLIENTS: Oh and let’s not forget the work itself.  The passion projects, client sessions, and other relevant roles like training.  It all adds up to a broader perspective and more in-depth understanding of coaching approaches.
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So, for that one hour you’re with your coach, we’re working several more to ensure we can support you in the best ways possible.
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And we wouldn’t have it any other way x
For years I believed my life would travel down a s For years I believed my life would travel down a single well-defined path.  One that was well within my grasp and made perfect sense at the time.  Get an education, build a successful career (make lots of money), buy a property, get married, have a family etc.
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That’s not quite how things have worked out.  Yet, I’m incredibly pleased with how things are going.
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When thinking about education, I used to believe this ended with university or professional qualifications.  Now I  know that’s not true.  Learning can continue for a lifetime with endless possibilities.  There are many subjects already explored, many to still discover, and great people continually sharing their ideas for us all to build on.
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I created a successful corporate career.  Yet the excitement wasn’t there.  This time around I’m starting with passion, following what engages me, to wherever it may lead. I have no fixed outcome in mind, instead it’s a continual journey of discovery.  Connecting with the moment and being open to the possibilities.
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And the rest?  Well, they’re on my radar, but I’m not attached to what they look like or when I may have them in my life.  For me life continues to evolve.  I’m open to what may enter my awareness and change the direction I’m heading in.  I love not knowing for certain, there’s something incredibly freeing in simply living and working toward what feels right at this time.
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The possibilities are endless, when we become open to them.
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Nishe x
Is there something you want to do? When you’re Is there something you want to do?

When you’re ready, go for it!

Standing on the sidelines provides a fabulous view of life.  Jumping in generates the beautiful experiences we’ll always remember.

What will you choose?

Nishe x
I love colour. I know I wear black everyday, but I love colour.  I know I wear black everyday, but that's just the surface.  Underneath, I'm a riot of colour.
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I suspect you've heard the saying "don't judge a book by its cover". It's so very simple and encourages us to look beyond, being open to what we may find.  To remove judgement from what is initially presented and see what has been hidden.
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We can remain with the surface, I believe there isn't anything truly wrong with this.
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Yet, I also believe life is far richer when we dive beneath.
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If this is something you're struggling with.  Pause.  Take a moment for you.  Now look again.  What do you see that wasn’t there before?
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Nishe x
I remember how it used to feel, needing to do thin I remember how it used to feel, needing to do things a certain way for them to be correct.  That painting within the lines was the right approach.  Getting a job, buying a property, having a family was what made a life complete.  There were so many rules I learnt to live by.  Yet, most were not right for me.
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It can be tough when we realise the unspoken rules we've followed for so long.  The ones that hold us back from going after what we really want.  Yet, it's important to also recognise how amazing this is.  We are now aware.  This means we now have options we couldn't see before.
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That means we have choice.
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Personally, I'm in favour of creating our own approaches.  Ways of operating that align to who we are and how we see the world.  We no longer need to do things the way others expect, we can choose to do them our way.
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It can take us a little time to adjust.  We're starting to shift rules we've lived by for most of our lives.  So be kind to yourself if you decide to take this step.
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Take care of you x
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Mathematics taught me a huge amount. Very little Mathematics taught me a huge amount.  Very little about numbers, and a whole lot about life.  This is where I discovered that establishing the problem we need to solve is often the greater challenge than actually solving it.  That's why I'm a huge advocate for exploration before action.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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OK, so having access to the right toolkit is incredibly valuable here.  But let's be clear, the toolkit means very little if we don't know what needs to be done.  It would be like hammering in a screw, when what's needed is a tool to loosen it instead.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I often hear people talking about quieting their i I often hear people talking about quieting their inner critic.  Shushing them in some way.  Pushing them away.  I've know of some people choosing to lock up their inner critics.  And others choosing to wrap them up and send them away in the post.  Anything to stop them taking over.
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I recognise that sometimes our inner critics appear at the most inconvenient times.  And we may need to respond quickly in an effort to get on with our lives.  However, I'd like to invite you to try something a little different.
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When you have the space and can give this your full attention, listen to your inner critic.  Listen to hear them, and nothing else.  This isn't about rebuking what they say, or defending your approach.  It is about simply allowing them to come into the space with you and to share openly.
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Then, encourage them to say more.  Ask them "what else?"
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Keep going…this can take a little time.
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Then, when they have nothing left to say, thank them for sharing with you.  That's enough for your first experience of engaging an inner self.
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If you're ready for more, or have any questions, get in contact x
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PS:  If you have a visual image of your inner critic, observe any changes in them as you go through this process.  Some change dramatically, others minutely.  Mine has gone from a slimy, murky green, croc with his tail dragging along the ground, to a dapper, bright green, chatty croc, wearing a top hat and tails.
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#innerself
#innergrowth
#innerjourney
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I love my inner selves. They’re each individual I love my inner selves.  They’re each individually brilliant at what they do.  Yet when they come together, something magical happens.
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These are incredible moments of flow where we are able to operate without any internal conflict.  Any questions or concerns that arise are responded to in a fully resourced manner.  Emotions exist within the experience without dominating.  Thinking emerges like water from a spring, gaining strength as it rambles to the sea.  There is no need for control.
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What often surprises me, is we don't always hear our inner selves when we're in flow.  Yet, we know where they are.  I see mine huddling together like a group of school children figuring out how to play the game they invented.  What becomes important is knowing they have our best interests at heart.  And to trust them to guide us as needed.
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Achieving this state of flow, recognising it, and being able to reconnect with it whenever we choose, is often part of the work my clients and I complete together.  Approaching this through inner selves supports our active exploration to discover the state.  Rather than hoping for it to miraculously appear.
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Let's remember this isn't a magic pill that fixes all woes and works for everyone.  Sometimes the exploration is challenging as we engage with, and heal, the inner selves that require our help.  Yet, it is an approach that is accessible, and I have yet to discover someone who has not benefitted significantly from it.
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Feel free to DM me, if you'd like to learn more.
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Nishe x
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