We all need a little support from time to time.  That may be what led you here.  If it is, let’s start how we mean to go on, with a question.  What will support you the most now?

HOW I ENGAGE WITH MY CLIENTS

As an Integrative Coach & Hypnotherapist, I meet my clients where they are, and help them get to where they want to be.  We move fluidly through the challenges they bring, and I employ a variety of techniques to support in identifying the best approach for each client.  My adaptability and open mindset means we’ll always find a way forward.  Every session creates an opportunity to explore, learn, and make progress, all in an effort to achieve your ultimate outcome.

It's raining.  On the inside.
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I could run for shelter and hide away.
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Yet, I'm choosing to stand under the shower and let it all wash away.
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It's on days like today, that I remind myself that this is part of being human.  In the richness of feeling emotions, it is not possible to choose which we experience.  It's a rare "all or nothing" scenario.  And I choose it all.
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I want the joy and excitement.  And if that means I must have the sadness and anger, so be it.  I won't go back to how things were.  I can't shut myself off in that way again.
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So I'll live this. 
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Some times will be "not great", as that's the worst it gets for me now.  Yet, other times will be incredible.  And beautiful, exciting, inspiring.  And so much more.
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Now is not great.
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Later will be better.
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Later still I'll be revived.  Ready to experience more.
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It's OK to have these experiences.  It's being human x
Yep. Anything. As a teen, I used to believe this Yep.  Anything.  As a teen, I used to believe this with every essence of my being.  However, over the years this eroded away.  I listened to other people and what they thought was possible.  I couldn't refute their logic, so my only option seemed to be agreeing with them.  At times they couldn't see the possibilities, so I restricted my perspective.  At others they outright captured me in a web of thinking that I couldn't untangle myself from, so I didn't escape.
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It's taken a few years.  And now I've undone so many of their bindings.  They were never mine.
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I truly believe we can do anything.  I can't say we'll be brilliant at what we choose to start with.  But we can get better.  We can learn.  We have limitless potential within us, we only need to access it.  It's right there, have a look within.  And when you find it, ask yourself this…
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"What will I do, now I know I can do anything?"
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Nishe x
I can be a little stubborn sometimes. I can hold I can be a little stubborn sometimes.  I can hold my approach in the tightest grip, desperately hoping no one will discover how to unfurl my fingers.  This can be a valuable trait at times.
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Yet, I cannot say this is always the case.
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There are times when seeing something from another perspective can bring about incredible opportunities.  Ones we could never have found ourselves.  It is for this reason, more than any other, that we would benefit from engaging in different perspectives.
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And it's just that.  Another view.  Another way of seeing things.
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We don't need to change our thinking.  We don't need to agree with the other perspective.  We can choose to disregard it completely.  Yet, if we don't listen, if we don't open ourselves up to the possibility, we ultimately restrict our own options.  We limit our choice.
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We become the person that limits our potential.
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So go ahead and listen.  See what they have to say.  And then choose what you do with this.
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Always your choice x
OMG, did I just say that? Did that comment come f OMG, did I just say that?  Did that comment come from me?  Was that a bad thing to say?  Did I do something wrong?  Have I upset them?  Will they still like me?
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And breathe…
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It's OK…
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Whatever you said, has now been shared.  You don't need to keep thinking about it.
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Be in the moment.
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See and hear their response.
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Notice what you feel.
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It's OK.
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Be present to what is happening now.
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Is there anything you want to share?  If so, you can choose to do this.  If not, that's OK too.
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You'll be fine.  So will they.
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Remember, we're not perfect.  We can say things we never intended.  They can interpret what we offer.
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Life moves forward regardless.
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You can continue the journey or you can begin to live in the past.  That's the only decision you need to make right now.
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What will you choose?
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From an over-thinker continually discovering a better way to live x
I remember the challenges I faced with my own mood I remember the challenges I faced with my own mood disorder.  The biggest one being that I had no right to feel this way as my life was great.  I had a family who loved me and I loved in return.  Friends who were there for me and I had a wonderful time with.  I had a sought after education and a coveted career.  Yet, I also experienced this deep sadness that nothing was, or ever would be, right 🤷🏽‍♀️
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The truth is, as we know, anyone can experience issues with their mental health.  It doesn’t matter what your life is like, none of us are fully immune.
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Yet, if it should find you, please remember this doesn’t need to be the rest of your life.  It’s possible to change.  It’s possible to discover a new way of living that allows you to be free of this.  And everyone who goes on that journey has a different experience, because it’s unique to each one of us.
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It took me 20 years to realise my experience was not how others went through life.  It was a revelation that some people weren’t carrying around this ridiculous weight all the time.  That some weren’t constantly fighting these internal battles.
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For the longest time I didn’t believe I would ever get close to that kind of freedom.  I could understand what it might be like, but it felt so out of reach.
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I couldn’t have been more wrong.
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When I was finally ready to let go of all I was hauling around with me, it didn’t take long for things to change.  I got the right kind of support.  I worked with practitioners I could trust and who I felt had the skill and experience to help me.
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Life became more vibrant.
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It wasn’t always easy.  It was definitely less painful than I imagined it would be.  I learnt a lot through this experience.  And the one element that I suspect will be with me forever is…
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“change is possible”
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Take care of you x
Should ☝🏽 be "shoulds"? It's been bothering m Should ☝🏽 be "shoulds"? It's been bothering me.  I feel this need to get my grammar right.  But <immediately uses grammar incorrectly> I'm not sure it really matters anymore.
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We all have a bunch of rules flying through us, determining how we should behave.  Most of them are unconscious.  Created in childhood when we didn't even have the ability to apply cognitive reasoning.
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Now some of these rules are reasonable and appropriate.  Others just seem to keep us stuck.  For example...
"You should go to university to get an education" - What about the other options?
"You should earn lots of money" - To buy what?
"You should be play nicely" - Even when they don't?
"You should finish what you start" - What if I discover something else that makes more sense?
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So, the next time you notice a should, just question if that's really true.  And <unashamedly uses grammar inappropriately> consider what else is possible.
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Feel free to join me as I break my unhelpful rules, one at a time x
There are days when life couldn't get better. Whe There are days when life couldn't get better.  Where everything seems to come together, and I flow seamlessly from one element to the other.  My relationships are in sync, and I'm fully aligned to my purpose.  These are the times when I could burst with happiness.
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And this doesn't happen every day.  So, when it does, I engage with it.  I enjoy the experience, without searching for the next thing.  I breathe in those moments.  They're special and deserve my attention.
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I can't predict when they'll happen.
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I can't magic them up from nowhere.
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I can now recognise them for what they are.  Accepting and connecting with them for as long as they remain with me.
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I don't hold on too tight.  If they leave, that's OK.  I know they'll return again one day.
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Sharing some happiness with you today x
I'm really saying ”be honest with yourself”. C I'm really saying ”be honest with yourself”. Connect to your inner experience, listen to yourself, and choose with this in mind.  I believe this can be done in the moment, and adds clarity to what’s important to us.  In turn, we can truly take account of our needs.  And be authentic in how we show up, and interact with others.
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My personal approach to this is engaging with my inner selves.  I have brief interactions with the ones that show up in the moment.  Listening to what they have to offer and bringing this into my responses.  If you’d like to learn about this approach, I’ll be sharing more here and am happy to have a chat too.
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Take care of you x
This was one of my best coping mechanisms. It ser This was one of my best coping mechanisms.  It served me well.  To a point anyway.  Then it was a bit of a disaster.
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When something wasn't going well or I thought I'd done something wrong, I would do my best to come up with the worst case scenarios of what would happen next.  Usually how people would berate me for the mistakes I made.  Then I would replay this in my mind, over and over, until I knew exactly how I could manage the situation when it happened.
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However, it was never as bad as I imagined.  And this made me feel like I had prepared myself well enough for whatever could happen.  It reinforced that my approach was right.
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Oh, and here's the kicker.  Because I ran the scenario in my head over and over.  Instead of living the experience once, I lived it 20-30 times.  I caused myself more hurt than they ever would.  I spent so much time living in the future, playing out what could go wrong, I rarely enjoyed what was so amazing in my life.
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Through sessions with my coach and therapist, I discovered that this was connected to my unconscious scripts.  Several were at play including the need to not get things "wrong", and feeling that others don't need to be able to do something, but I do.  Essentially, if someone else made a mistake, that was OK, because everyone makes mistakes.  But I'm not allowed to.
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Yep, it's unbalanced.  It doesn’t make logical sense.  But isn't it amazing how these beautiful contradictions can live in perfect harmony within us?
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And they continue to exist in this way until we become aware and learn another way of being.
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So, if this sounds familiar, remember it can change.  Be kind to yourself, you're doing the best you can right now.  And that's enough.
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Nishe x
Yep, that's how my head operates. A jumble of tho Yep, that's how my head operates.  A jumble of thoughts whirring around and some inspiring ideas caught in the middle.  I've been known to lose myself in all that thinking.  Not quite finding my way to those ideas.
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Sometimes that's just the journey we need to go on.  Sometimes our minds need to unravel themselves for us to discover our inspiration.
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I'm getting comfortable not forcing my thinking.  I'm discovering that the unravelling happens more quickly when I step back and support that process.  I've learnt that the answers that lead to the elusive idea usually lie in the journey itself.
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Sometimes I wish I could by-pass all of this and jump straight to what I want.  Yet, I suspect I wouldn't value the idea half as much if I did.
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It really is about discovering the joy in the journey x